#11 ; the pretty girl you pass on the street

12 months later.

It’s August 27, 2012 and you’ve been committed for a year.

You’ve given yourself some time and focused on this one thing. You’ve put it at the centre of your life and now you’re feeling a little more grounded about life. You have a better perspective on things. Your roots are continuing to grow deeper and with constant repetition and commitment they will become even stronger.

Only time will tell whether this is your final resting place or whether you will have to seek something else, but for now you’re grounded and you feel content… fulfilled.

You’re grounded in some thing/some one. You understand that you can’t be standing in more than one place. It’s impossible.

If you have more than one thing at the centre of your life then you’re heart and mind are fighting over two loves. If you’re fighting over two loves then you’re not single-minded and if you’re not single-minded then you’re double-minded and if you’re double-minded then you’re still living the aesthetic life. You’re still chasing the interesting things, the catchy things, the things that change day-to-day.

The idea of chasing that pretty girl you pass on the street is still more intriguing than settling down and being with someone for 30 years.

But that’s not you anymore.

That was the old you.

That was the way you use to act.

You don’t centre your life around the interesting things. You still like the aesthetic things and you enjoy them at the appropriate time but you now realize that those sort of fleeting things don’t have teeth; you can’t chew much with them; they give you your proper nutrition; they don’t get you very far.

You are starting to grow up and realize that you need to pick one thing. One Staple.

Your friends seem to have noticed some change in you. You don’t panic over most things. You use to always get worried and felt uneasy about the future. Now that you grounded in something your whole world doesn’t shake when something goes wrong.

Also, they notice that you’ve stopped doing your thought processing out loud. You use to always tell people the direction you were thinking of going but now you simply remain quiet and head in that direction because you secure in where you stand.

They notice something else.

You no longer judge others.

You use to find comfort in judging, gossiping and comment on other people. People you knew, people you hardly knew and people you had never even met. You made these thoughtful generalizations about individuals and groups of people.

The reason you talked and judged others was to make it seem like you were confident and convicted. Judging others somehow made you feel more secure.

You don’t do this anymore because now you have chosen one thing and can rest assured. 

You have finally realized that you were groundless in those generalizations. You would talk about things which you had no authority to talk about. You judged other peoples lifestyles and other peoples decisions without knowing them or what brought them to their own unique and secure resting place.

But that’s not you anymore.

That was the old you.

That was the way you use to act.

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One Comment on “#11 ; the pretty girl you pass on the street”

  1. estolte
    August 30, 2011 at 4:47 pm #

    Love your thinking, Michael. One thought: when you say, “You have finally realized that you were groundless in those generalizations. You would talk about things which you had no authority to talk about. You judged other peoples lifestyles and other peoples decisions without knowing them or what brought them to their own unique and secure resting place.” aren’t you “judging”? Or am I misunderstanding what you mean when you use the word “judging”? Thanks!

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